Regulation Isn’t Calm — It’s Capacity

“Self-regulation” has become a buzzword — often shared with good intentions, but it can quietly shame those who can’t access it.

For many, regulation isn’t something you “just do.” It’s something you slowly learn, especially if no one ever showed you how.

Your body isn’t failing when you can’t “self-regulate.” It’s responding to what it’s known — and what it’s survived.

Regulation isn’t about forcing calm or controlling emotion.
It’s about having enough capacity in your nervous system to stay connected — to yourself, to another person, to the moment — even when things feel hard.

Sometimes that capacity is small, sometimes it’s wide.

Therapy can help widen it — through safety, co-regulation, and understanding, not through pressure to “do better.”

At Aruma, our team supports you in gently rebuilding that capacity — at your own pace, and never alone.

Here’s your sign — reach out 🧡